Adult friendships are hard. Very hard. Careers and families seem to always take presdent over the time needed to develope and nurture adult relationships. I am the mother of one. My schedule, if written in red, would cause you think I needed a blood transfusion. In fact tonight, I was sternly explaining to my daughter that my every minute of every day to used up. Daylight to dark I am engulfed in work of some sort, housework, work work, hobby work.
They say the easiest of friendships are ones that come about in your everyday life. In other words, the people that you are simply just around the most. Maybe it's people you work with, people who's children go to school with yours, people who share in your hobbies or maybe the lady at the post office who hands you your mail when you forget your key. I have had lots of friends in my life. Each of them have played a different role in making me.....me. Most recently, I had the pleasure of sharing a friendship with two great ladies, Kim and Karen. Each of our friendships began in different ways, but fell into the "everyday" friendship category, allowing it to progress rapidly. So rapidly, one "wild hair" day, we decided to jump into business together forming Get Movin'! Fitness, something that single handedly, none of us would have ventured into. What a ride it's been! Teaching group fitness classes together 3-4 days a week, for the last year has made our friendship flourish into a form of sisterhood, loving each others families as our own. It's never easy though. As adults we have our own ideas, our own hopes and goals. But, embracing each other's strengths and weaknesses is what makes the friendships special. Our "three musketeer" friendship was simple. Our families came first, our times together were priceless and our goals as wives and mothers were often the same...survive without needing each other to help bury the bodies! We succeeded! Actually, we succeeded quite well! How? We talked. We told each other what we needed to hear, not always what we wanted to hear. And most importantly, we loved. We loved each other despite our flaws....the very many flaws we possess...
Recently I've been know to say, "Not sure what horrible thing I've done in life to deserve both my bff's to leave me within two weeks", but it wasn't that I've done anything bad. More so, it was "What great thing did I do to deserve having such unconditional love", even if for such a short fraction of my life. And in my sadness, I have to remind myself.....THEY ARE MOVING, NOT DYING! Sustaining the friendship will be harder, after all, we are no longer in the "everyday" category. But the past we share and the memories we've made makes it worthwhile!
So, see you soon girls...
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